A new beginning

Well.........it's done. The Funeral went very smooth and nice. My SIL was and still is in amazingly good spirits. Her sweetie is no longer suffering. No more constant pain. She said he's whole now; mentally and physically and is in a better place. It was hard though. They celebrated or rather had their 50th wedding anniversary October 31 of last year. There wasn't a celebration b/c SIL said it's supposed to be a 'happy time' and the happy times had all been used up. 50 years though. Wow........how awesome is that! They married when she was only 15. Can you imagine? And I thought I was young at 19! :) She has taken care of him for 14 years....litterally done everything for him for 14 years....out of pure love. Geeze-o-pete.....she's one strong cookie. I can only hope that after spending 35 years in this family of Lovee's, that I have gleened some of her tenacity and strength...and that if called...I could do the same.

She's already looking forward to all of the upcoming life changes. She can get back into her church activities. She can come and go whenever she want. She can travel and see things she's always wanted to...visit her sisters who live in other states....she can get back to the process of living her life.
She's truely my Hero. To give so selflessly of herself....honoring her vows as she would often say...she's an inspriation to us all. She's grateful for the 50 years they had together...good ones and bad ones...but she's ready to get back to life and all it has to offer. She's not a 'dweller', so she won't be looking back with any regrets or coulda,shoulda,woulda's....
The smile in her heart will show on her face for all to see.

A wee grape squish....

The Holidays are over. Now I can look forward to a new and hopefully more uplifting year. The uplifting part will come from within.....I can do it....I think....deffinitely....it's just within reach so I'm going for it.

Christmas with my sisterlittle was fabulous!! Her daughter and son were here too! We're all fairly sure that this will be the last time everyone gets together for the holiday. So many pics were taken....memories were made.....I loved every second of her visit.
Her divorce will be final in February...she's fine and happier than she's been in years. That's reason enough to celebrate right?

Since I was fortunate enough to have every Monday off....great scheduling on my part thank.you.very.much....Lovee and I decided to dedicate Mondays to cheering up my beloved SIL. I adore my SIL's.........as much as my own sister. I can't put into words the feelings I have for her. She's one of my Hero's for sure.
Anywho....#1 SIL ( there are 2 others whom I love also)has been taking care of her hubby for years now. Mulitple strokes took most of him away...the good parts of him were lost. Still...she did what all of us would do...she dedicated her life to caring for him. She's truely the strongest woman I've ever known. Mentally and physically. He's not a small man. Years of lifting him has taken a toll on her body.....still.......she kept on.
We made each Monday a special day...for her. We took a different gift each time along with a baked treat. The time we spent visiting was the best gift we gave her. Her sweetie was losing ground daily........a rapid downward spiral....she needed someone to talk with and make her laugh....give her a wee feeling of normalcy. Mission accomplished. :)

Last night about 7 p.m. he lost his battle. Lovee was there along wih all the grandkids and urchins. Lovee said the air in the room changed immediately. A sigh of relief was breathed. No more pain and suffering. They're both free now. Healing will be the challenge from now on.

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Now for a different grape squish.........ready for some strong juice?

Mom: the gypsy told me I'd live to 84. That means I'll die this year.
tt: she told me I'd live to 72.
Mom: well, I hope you live to 84.
tt: why?
Mom: So you'll know how I feel.
tt: ( after a long pause)....I think I'll keep the 72......

Now, to the untrained viewer, that may seem like a good thing she said. Let me tell ya...it wasn't.
She suffering. Big time......in her own mind. She plays the martyr card biggly...always has and always will. She can't see; she's always in pain; she feels sorry for herself continually......she's .....she's been a suffering 84 forever!
I do EVERYTHING for her and she suffers. She wants me to FEEL her suffering so I understand.
Her glass has never been half full...EVER! It's always had only a few drops in it....
She.makes.me.tired.

Still, I'm going to work on the uplifting side of my life. Do all that I can to bring a ray of sunshine into peoples lives. I'm gonna wear my 'sunny-side-up' glasses.......no sun block for me! I'll put on some 'cloud block' or something....anything to keep me from becoming a suffering 84 year old.
Period.

I've got some great pics of the family at Christmas. I'll post those after things quiet down a bit here. Sisterlittle is sooooo gorgeous....I love her awful.