Wednesday, January 28, 2009


yep....elfing cold!! 10 degrees today! But...and that's a big but... ( teehee)....the sun has made an appearance. Yay!
Sleet, freezing rain, snow, sleet, sleet= icey roads everywhere now. Uck!

I've got to try and get to the parentals today. Didn't make it yesterday. Had me a pj day. Woot!

Gotta jet...........
wish me luck with the do-dah's out there. :)

Tuesday, January 27, 2009

Loving that I can still learn......

For those of you who didn't know, as I didn't, the Rev. Lowery began his benediction at President Obama's Inauguration with the last verse of the Negro National Anthem, specifically:

"God of our weary years, God of our silent tears, thou, who has brought us thus far along the way, thou, who has by thy might led us into the light, keep us forever in the path we pray, lest our feet stray from the places, our God, where we met thee, lest our hearts drunk with the wine of the world, we forget thee.
Shadowed beneath thy hand, may we forever stand true to thee, oh God, and true to our native land."

I'd never heard of a Negro National Anthem before. It doesn't surprise me that I wasn't taught this. When I went to school here in Oklahoma in the 60's and 70's, our schools were segregated. It was only when I was a junior in High School that 'blacks' voluntarily were bussed to my school.
I made friends with many of them. Not because of their color but because I was just a people person. And I must admit a certain curiosity as I hadn't known any blacks personally. The closest I came was the maid we had for a while and the fact that my brothers best friend in Viet Nam was black. That was the extent of my knowledge. Sad actually.
I could never see any difference except skin color and the part of town 'they' lived in wasn't as nice as mine. Even sadder.
I remember admiring their 'tan'....often wishing I was as beautifully colored. My Irish/German ancestery kept me rather pale.

One of my blobbie friends pointed this fact...the anthem...out to me. I just never knew.
It's beautiful. Simple and beautiful. And I love it. I'm glad it has been around to inspire the masses and I'm glad I've been enlightened to this fact.
Silly me, I just thought it was a lovely prayer.

I hope I never stop learning.
It makes my soul shine with happiness.

Monday, January 26, 2009

really??? Seriously??? Get real man!!!!!!!

Can I just say something???
Well shit...of course I can. This is my blog and I can tell someone to F off anytime I want to.
Did anyone hear what Rush Limbaugh said ????? The audacity of that man totally confounds me. I mean, come on!!!!!! I can't for the life of me understand why anyone....especially an American, who purports to love his country (like Raunchy-Rush)would say he hopes President Obama 'FAILS". Seriously! Come on!!!!!........
Even when we or should I say 'I' have a President whom I/we don't agree with, it's just not right to publically say it's a hope that our President fails. It's not a Republican issue or a Democrat issue. It's a country issue.
Because if they were to fail then we all do. Sure some policies suck or ideas are put into play that don't exactly help us the way 'we' think they should....but to say "I hope he fails" is just too arrogant for me.
Maybe I've worn my rose colored glasses too long or my Pollyanna ideas still poke me in the ol' grape too often but...........really. Really?
Freedom of speech is important. Totally important!! I get that. But so is personal responsibility for ones actions and along with that, their speech.
Personally, I've never cared for Rush. I think he's a bore and a braggart. I think he uses his platform to bully and point out the flaws of everyone but himself.

That being said....this is just my humble opinion. I take full responsibility for my words and thoughts. I'm not on a radio program where I'll share my thoughts with millions of other people. I'm not that brash nor do I feel the need of saying something in public to garner a bunch of attention to feed my ego.
I just needed to vent a bit.
Arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrghhhhh........he really gets under my skin.
Now I need a bath........I gotta scrub that shit off.
On a more interesting note.............we're frozen here. Litterally!! Ice storm...again. Not as bad as the one we had in December of 07...but bad enough that I won't be able to get to the parentals tomorrow! Eeeeeeekk! Needless to say the Mom isn't happy. Really? pfft....
Either I stay home tomorrow so I can arrive safe Wednesday......or......I risk it tomorrow and maybe end up in a mangled mess on the highway. Which is it Mom? Hummmm?? Oh??? Stay home then?? Ok...:) thankyouverymuch.
I fixed their pill containers Sunday after church just in case I couldn't get there. That was the Dad's idea and a good one. There's plenty of food in their house that she can fix. Casseroles in the freezer...speghetti sause in the freezer....homemade soup in the freezer....lots of food. No appointments untill Wednesday. They'll be fine. She's not convinced.

I should let her borrow my rose colored glasses or read Pollyanna to her. Maybe????

So, tomorrow, Lovee is going to try and make it to work. Gotta get those Wal~mart trucks out on the road ya know. I'll be keeping all my crossables crossed for him; possibly holding my breath untill he calls and tells me he's there. pajamma day will start. Woo-hoo!!

Have a good day!
Wave at the sun for me and send him over :)

Friday, January 23, 2009

Squishing some grapes....

there's a....what do I call it?......annoyance maybe.....that has agravated me FOREVER. it's actually fairly petty so I haven't mentioned it before...i don't think. :) maybe I have, I don't know...don't care...I'm just gonna vent a bit........
anywho, it concerns the Mom. Bet you guessed this already didn't you? lol...ahem.....

Mom has this habit of giving orders. it's not something new; she's always done it. She doesn't request or ask, she orders. it completely irks me. In fact, there are times I want to ground her and send her to her room when she does it...THAT'S how much it pisses me off.
"turn the TV to channel 8"
"don't put the table so close to the window"
"get me a kleenix"
"go get........"
"bring .............."
"stop doing that"
"if you want me to listen talk louder"

It's not the demands or 'orders' per's that she seldom, if ever, says 'please' or 'if you don't mind would you'...or even thank you after the task is completed. Drives me nucking futs I tell you. the process of saying these things she's got a nasty frown on her face. Well, that's not entirely accurate....the nasty frown is just the way her face is...I think it froze that way. Seriously.

All this got me to thinking.....
sisterlittle and I were raised by the 'do as I say, not as I do' rule. I remember her admonishing us...out in public, if we ever forgot to say thank you or please. it was expected of us to do these things....but not expected of her.
this is no exageration. Ugh!!!!!!!!!!
sisterlittle and I are every polite. For which I thank the Mom for actually..............but I suppose it just never occurred the Dutches of mean to apply her own lessons to herself.

Demanding little shit .................. just take a deep breath tt

Like I said. It's petty but geeze just goes all over me like a bad elfing rash!!!!

Just because you're old doesn't give you the right to order people around.
Anyway....I said "please" to her when she 'told' me to do something earlier today. ....

Mom: " tt,make the cookies ."
me: ......(sigh)....please??
Mom: "please what?"
tt: "aren't we supposed to say please when we want something?"
Mom: "am I a child"
tt: " no, but that's just least that's what my Mom used to tell me when I was little"
Mom: " your Mom had a big mouth...(long pause)......please"
Tt: .......thank you....I'll make them after lunch if that's ok
Mom: that's fine.........(long pause)...............thank you.

I'm over it now.....for now...until it happens again..........
cookies are good.........oatmeal raisen with pecans!! Yummy!

Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Another funny...I just can't help it...

Kitty Stutter

A teacher is explaining biology to her 4th grade students. "Human Beings are the only animals that stutter," she says.

A little girl raises her hand. "I had a kitty-cat who stuttered."

The teacher, knowing how precious some of these stories could become, asked the girl to describe the incident.

"Well", she began, "I was in the back yard with my kitty and the Rottweiler that lives next door got a running start and before we knew it, he jumped over the fence into our yard!"

"That must've been scary," said the teacher.

"It sure was," said the little girl. "My kitty raised his back, went Sssss, Sssss, Sssss" and before he could say "Shit," the Rottweiler ate him!

The teacher wet her pants laughing.

squishie...squishie.....( snort)

I wonder if when Michele Obama walk into a room full of ladies if she belts out-

"Hola Bitches!!"

Yea...I don't think so either..........gigglesnort.
Wonder if she ever has??
yea, probably not...........
Good thing Lovee isn't into politics.....I'd be hung out to dry...litterally! ha

She's just so classy acting....made me wonder yesterday when she was being all prim and proper. I do that too...when I have to. At church ( duh) and at the Country Club with the parentals ( pfft) and when Lovee was in the USMC and we were at the Ball ( FUN!!)
I'm just glad I don't have to do it often. Ugh...I'd be exhausted. lol

todays funny.......

Got this in an email yesterday and I almost blew snot bubbles. I shouldn't read stuff when I'm drinking. lol

"You are on the bus when you suddenly realize ... you need to fart.
The music is really loud, so you time your farts with the beat.
After a couple of songs, you start to feel better as
you approach your stop. As you are leaving the bus, people
are really staring you down, and that's when you realize,
you have been listening to your ipod."

Sounds just like something I would do!!!

Sunday, January 18, 2009

Well,,whatcha think?

Hummmmmmmmmm??????....just trying out something I learned over at the Fairy Princess' blog. Interesting yes???? No?????
I'm thinking it's groovy-cool.
AND...more inportantly....I did it all by myself...Ta-dah!!!
Fiwa also has one on hers. I always thought it was the neatest thing but was too shy to ask her how she got it....not to mention my whole 'I'm-challenged' thing. then I saw Princess K with one and thought....what the heck..let's give it a

FYI-here's the place to get one..

Saturday, January 17, 2009

picture overload...

Lovee and SIL after the funeral. Lovee was scrunched down on the couch....looks like he's coming out of his coat...lolBabyboy aka..#3 son, Sunshine gal and Pups aka..#2 son after the funeral. The boys had on sunglasses earlier and looked a wee bit mafia. lol
have you seen enough of my gorgeous sisterlittle??? There's a lot more below...I can't get enough of her....I love her hair. She went gray a long time ago. Me.....just a few sprinkles here and there...bummer! Of course she's a skinny do-dah and I'm

If the Mom knew I put this picture anywhere but the trash she'd have my head!!!!!!!!!! This is her normal look though....uh-huh....reminds me of those Maxine cards only w/o the humor. But hey...I guess when your blind and 84 you can look any way you want...right?

3rd installment of Photos...:)

Lovee and I at Christmas. You can almost see the 'Heart of the Ocean' necklace he gave me ;)Loee relaxing at the Parentals house....The Mom was probably talking...he's such the captive audience.
Dad opening his gift from my niece. It's a Mr. Talk Radio....basically a talking head. He LOVES it.

The Mom when my sisterlittle first got there. She has to get up close and personal to see anything. She and Dad said this was the best Christmas ever. Awww........

Another pic of me. Wanted you to see the necklace. It's huge.!!!

Sisterlittle,niece,the Mom and nephew............Nephew lives in New York...Sister and niece in Denver.

a couple more pics.....:)

We went to Tahlequah, Ok....SIL graduated College there...This sign shows the meaning of the word.............. cute huh?
My adorable and lovable SIL's.....Blue sweater( SIL) is the one who graduated at Northeastern ( Tahlequah ) Red sweater is the SIL who just lost her husband. As you can see...smiles were abundant.

the long awaited picture montage...partial viewings

sisterlittle and me..........doing a 'tuck and roll' at the airport............... :(Lovee and Sunshine gal at my BIL's funeral..... ain't they cute!

the parental Dad and I at our Saturday morning eatin' joint....Village Inn
My niece, Punky and Sunshine gal....beautimus gals there!!!!!!

The most fabulous picture ever!!!!! Sisterlittle and her Urchins!!!! Wow!

Thursday, January 15, 2009

??? maybe????

China and the United Kingdom. Yep........sound familiar to anyone??
I'm thinking I have blog-lurkers from there; according to my world map.
Really makes me curious. Are they poor souls trying to learn English from my terrible example?? Or....what? Maybe...possibly caregiver-beck and call girl-people?
I'm curious by nature so this drives me nucking futs!

I see Squiddly's dot down Cuba's way at Gtmo.....Hi babe!!!! Love you :)

but really.........write something...even if I can't understand it..
Not your regular peeps.....I saw that before where you tried being all sneaky and shit....I ain't buying it again...:)

So, I'm a bit on the bored side today. Can you tell?
Uh-huh......I'll go now.
No need to inflict it upon you.
Later all ya'll....................

It's snowing!!!!!....sorta

Can I get a ..... HELL YES!!!!!!

I'm a snowbaby actually. Maybe cuz I was born in July? Naw, that doesn't make sense. I just love snow. And now it is.
It's about 10 degrees with a wind chill of about -4 !!!! Brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr it's cold!!!
We're only getting a slight dusting but's snowing!
What I'm finding odd is that there's more 'dust' in our backyard than in the front. Our house faces east so the back is west....duh!!......but isn't that odd. If our house faced north I wouldn't be scratching my head .....I'm easily entertained remember?!

I'll just ponder that with the whole age thing today.

What I'd love to see my grape anyway...not IRL... is to have so much snow that we just couldn't possibly get out of the house for a few days. Seriously. The down side to that is that I'd worry about the parentals cuz I know they'd be panicked.(..they do that really well on good weather days) How would they ever manage w/o my 12 year old self? Yep...they would turn themselves inside out with worry. But still..................these are the things dreams are made of. :)
I took pictures to show ya. Of course I'll have to get Lovee to upload them for me.....
yes...we've already established how challenged I am, so knock it off. :)


Has anyone heard that taking an antihistamine for extended periods of time makes you gain weight in middle section? Sunshine gal said her Dr. told her that. Rx or OTC.... doesn't matter. If taken for prolonged periods of time.....instant muffin top!
WTF??? I've taken Benedryl help me sleep. Works better than anything else I've tried. We're talking years here. And yes....I've got some serious love handles especially good for giving Lovee something to hang on to during our 'magic' time ...sorry I know that's TMI so I tried not taking them. That lasted only one night. Shitty sleep...or actually fitful sleep. I talked to Lovee about it and he assured me he loves me anyway he can get me....fluffy or not. So I went back to my sleepers last night. Gotta love that man!!!!!!

(note to self: post Christmas pics!!!!)

**** read my 'Ponder' post below**** I need answers................


Here's a thoughtful question for ya.

How old would you be if you didn't know how old you are?

Boy, lemme tellya, that got me to thinking. My grape went into overload when I read that yesterday.
Dad and I were at his eye Dr.'s appointment and I was flipping through a magazine and came across that. It stopped me.
Brick wall.
Then the grape started squishing. It was a mess I tell ya. I'm so easily entertained these days. :)
I'm so many ages during the day it's no wonder I'm exhausted by bedtime.
I've already said how I'm '12' most of the time I'm at the parentals. Of course there are times when I jump clear to 13..that's when we're talking about how I sprouted horns when I became a teenager...and how I was such a source of worry for them if I would ever become a productive adult. Seriously!
Then of course I jump back and forth between 16 and 18 when they talk about my dating 'preferences'.....I dated all shapes,sizes,ages....even colors( when they didn't know...racist A-holes!)....drove them crazy I tell ya. I changed boyfriends like I changed shoes. My thought was that if it didn't fit...change it. So I did.
But I digress..................Oh look.....a chicken. :)
anywho.....when the Dad starts looping( talking about the same thing over and over) I jump up to my real age at lightning speed and often after 20 minutes or so I've zoomed clear up to about 78. I'm seriously tired by then and just want to take a nap to escape. But obviously I don't.
In the mornings, when I first get up I feel about 65. Slow moving and a bit stiff...wobbling into the sandbox to do my morning scratchings. :)
On the rare occasions that I can get out and about.....walking the neighborhood or getting out to do some gardening, I'm about 30. Oh....and when I'm swimming or just hanging out with Lovee I'm 19 again.
When I think about the urchins...I'm in my early 20's. Sweet times there.
It's no wonder we're tired when bedtime comes. All that switching ages is hard on a body.
Have you ever thought about it?

Wednesday, January 14, 2009

Bring it on already!!!

I'm so ready for the ignauguration!!!!!!! did I spell that wrong or right?? Who cares. It's my blog and I can misspell if I want to right?

................'spellers of the world untie'.............:)

Bring it Obama!
Hope is blowing in the winds....I can feel it. Sure it's a wee bit cold but next Tuesday....we'll all feel a bit warmer.

Hurry up!

Sunday, January 11, 2009

A new beginning's done. The Funeral went very smooth and nice. My SIL was and still is in amazingly good spirits. Her sweetie is no longer suffering. No more constant pain. She said he's whole now; mentally and physically and is in a better place. It was hard though. They celebrated or rather had their 50th wedding anniversary October 31 of last year. There wasn't a celebration b/c SIL said it's supposed to be a 'happy time' and the happy times had all been used up. 50 years though. awesome is that! They married when she was only 15. Can you imagine? And I thought I was young at 19! :) She has taken care of him for 14 years....litterally done everything for him for 14 years....out of pure love. Geeze-o-pete.....she's one strong cookie. I can only hope that after spending 35 years in this family of Lovee's, that I have gleened some of her tenacity and strength...and that if called...I could do the same.

She's already looking forward to all of the upcoming life changes. She can get back into her church activities. She can come and go whenever she want. She can travel and see things she's always wanted to...visit her sisters who live in other states....she can get back to the process of living her life.
She's truely my Hero. To give so selflessly of herself....honoring her vows as she would often say...she's an inspriation to us all. She's grateful for the 50 years they had together...good ones and bad ones...but she's ready to get back to life and all it has to offer. She's not a 'dweller', so she won't be looking back with any regrets or coulda,shoulda,woulda's....
The smile in her heart will show on her face for all to see.

Thursday, January 8, 2009

Wonders never cease...

Well, guess what?

Mom has a 'nice switch". At least that's what I'm gonna call it. Evidently she found it yesterday after I left and turned it on when I got here this morning. Amazing.

While we were turning their bed down last night she asked me if I'd be able to come back to their house after the funeral to fix their dinner. I asked if I needed to and she said she'd like for me to. :(

That was my mistake. I asked her a question after she asked me one instead of just saying, NO! I was so deflated yesterday...from her selfishness about this whole funeral thing that I just didn't have any fight left in me I think.

I talked it over with Lovee and we decided to tell her that I just wouldn't have the time to come back. So when I walked in this morning, I used the phrase they often greet me with..."We've got a problem". I said I wouldn't be able to come back after the funeral and offered to make a casserole ahead of time when Mom said-

" That's ok, I'd already decided I'd fix the Hamburger soup that's in the freezer. I knew you wouldn't have time to come back."

Well,well, it a nice switch or trying to make herself look better...whatever the reason...I just said ok and left it at that.'s a powerful thing! Throwing my problems out to the Universe for problem solving...


Works for me.

Pups, also known as #2 son, arrived last night. He's such a sweetie. i could just squeeze him to pieces. My dear SIL asked # 2 & # 3 son to be pallbarers. They were honored to say the least. Lovee later called and offered his services for that honor too and was accepted.

It's gonna be a hard one.

Wednesday, January 7, 2009

A wee grape squish....

The Holidays are over. Now I can look forward to a new and hopefully more uplifting year. The uplifting part will come from within.....I can do it....I's just within reach so I'm going for it.

Christmas with my sisterlittle was fabulous!! Her daughter and son were here too! We're all fairly sure that this will be the last time everyone gets together for the holiday. So many pics were taken....memories were made.....I loved every second of her visit.
Her divorce will be final in February...she's fine and happier than she's been in years. That's reason enough to celebrate right?

Since I was fortunate enough to have every Monday off....great scheduling on my part and I decided to dedicate Mondays to cheering up my beloved SIL. I adore my SIL' much as my own sister. I can't put into words the feelings I have for her. She's one of my Hero's for sure.
Anywho....#1 SIL ( there are 2 others whom I love also)has been taking care of her hubby for years now. Mulitple strokes took most of him away...the good parts of him were lost. Still...she did what all of us would do...she dedicated her life to caring for him. She's truely the strongest woman I've ever known. Mentally and physically. He's not a small man. Years of lifting him has taken a toll on her body.....still.......she kept on.
We made each Monday a special day...for her. We took a different gift each time along with a baked treat. The time we spent visiting was the best gift we gave her. Her sweetie was losing ground daily........a rapid downward spiral....she needed someone to talk with and make her laugh....give her a wee feeling of normalcy. Mission accomplished. :)

Last night about 7 p.m. he lost his battle. Lovee was there along wih all the grandkids and urchins. Lovee said the air in the room changed immediately. A sigh of relief was breathed. No more pain and suffering. They're both free now. Healing will be the challenge from now on.


Now for a different grape squish.........ready for some strong juice?

Mom: the gypsy told me I'd live to 84. That means I'll die this year.
tt: she told me I'd live to 72.
Mom: well, I hope you live to 84.
tt: why?
Mom: So you'll know how I feel.
tt: ( after a long pause)....I think I'll keep the 72......

Now, to the untrained viewer, that may seem like a good thing she said. Let me tell wasn't.
She suffering. Big her own mind. She plays the martyr card biggly...always has and always will. She can't see; she's always in pain; she feels sorry for herself continually......she's .....she's been a suffering 84 forever!
I do EVERYTHING for her and she suffers. She wants me to FEEL her suffering so I understand.
Her glass has never been half full...EVER! It's always had only a few drops in it....

Still, I'm going to work on the uplifting side of my life. Do all that I can to bring a ray of sunshine into peoples lives. I'm gonna wear my 'sunny-side-up' sun block for me! I'll put on some 'cloud block' or something....anything to keep me from becoming a suffering 84 year old.

I've got some great pics of the family at Christmas. I'll post those after things quiet down a bit here. Sisterlittle is sooooo gorgeous....I love her awful.